DAY-31, HASSI MESSAOUD, ALGERIA, 29TH JUNE'09, 23.58 HRS

How to be a Super Dad ???

We don’t need any superman like ability to deal with the tiny tots or teenage children. Just a careful watch and spending time with them makes a significant difference in their development.

Following quotes I like very much~

"Parents are not the only voice in your children's ear, so you better be the best voice, the clearest voice, the most influential voice in your children's ear." - Jay McGraw

"With all of the media influences today, Parents need to have the 'best voice' that really gets through to their children." - Jay McGraw

Positive dad involvement is an important factor in children's healthy development. Studies show that when dads participate in learning, children are more likely to receive higher marks, enjoy school more and are less likely to repeat a grade. Simply sharing books and reading with children can lead to better school performance and a closer bond with dad. Academic success starts long before your children start school and parents are children's first and most important teachers. This close and positive relationship starts early in children's lives when dads and kids spend special time together.

Dads sharing the work and play of raising kids can really make a difference.

Dads are a powerful influence on children's literacy achievement in many ways other than just sharing books. Children also enjoy looking at and reading maps, cartoons, sports cards, project assembly instructions etc. Brochures, newspapers and magazines appeal to many dads and young children as well.

Point out and read environmental print while on excursions with your child. Even the youngest child loves reading the big M for McDonald's and the STOP sign at the end of your street.

Children love to hear dad tell stories about when he was young especially if it's done in a fun and playful rough and tumble way. Dads can talk to children about old photos that tell stories of their childhood. Most children also get a kick out of hearing knock-knock jokes, nonsense rhymes and silly jingles. Listen to stories on DVD while driving together in the car for added fun.

For becoming a responsible and better dad one has to take following steps ~

1. Ask your child~

a) What can I do to be a better Dad?
b) What can we do together to have more fun?
2. Engage in your children's lives. Learn about their day.
3. Ask your wife for her ideas about connecting with your kids.
4. Appreciate that our children need to "Individuate".
5. Learn from others. Talk with your friends.
6. Bring "Best Practices" into your home.
7. Communicate with them. When we lecture we lose them.
8. Understand the balancing of YES and NO to our children's requests.
9. Make a commitment to be your best for your family.
10. Appreciate that you will need to "Adjust the Plan"

Set a GOAL to be a Great Dad, HUG your Child Daily, Tell them you LOVE them ! Get to KNOW your Kids, Set a game plan to SPEND TIME together
Have DINNER Together as often as possible

Hope my understanding of a becoming a Super dad may be helpful to the many.

With Love and regard,

A very good night…

MANOJ KUMAR OJHA

DAY-30, HASSI MESSAOUD, ALGERIA, 28TH JUNE'09, 18.10 HRS

Taking care of others or taking care of yourself

 

The ways we communicate our feelings, beliefs and ideas to others are influenced by our cultural backgrounds, the way we were raised, and sometimes which side of the bed we got up on this morning. Some of us are very mindful of others making decisions we hope will be in their best interests, even if it means sometimes neglecting our own interests. Others of us believe each person should be responsible for themselves, taking deep pride in our own character and independence with a firm belief that others are best served by doing the same. Illustrating the dimension of your personality that determines your independence or your desire to reach out and touch others in meaningful ways.

 

For people who are ruled by tender-hearted compassion, your more diplomatic response to problems might seem too cool, too focused on fairness and not filled enough with sympathy and selflessness.

For them, when someone's life is on fire, what is needed is not collaboration but rescue. And the person who experiences their life on fire may resent the time you take to contemplate. "I need you, and I need you NOW! This isn't about fairness, it's about the fire." "All deliberate speed" may seem too deliberate and not fast enough, either to the more compassionate or to people in genuine trouble.

At the other end of the spectrum of compassion, those who believe people should take care of themselves may find even your thoughtful sympathies too soft. They expect people, themselves included, to work their own way out of trouble. They are convinced that the helping hand you lend just fosters dependence and is not good for the development of character, either in you or in the person you assist.

 

Many people, perhaps the majority, will come to appreciate of  balancing as a compassionate person. The more they get to know , the more they will admire the thoughtful compassion for others and its compliment in the sensible ways as you take good care of yourself.

Those whom you help will appreciate the way you leave them with their dignity by expecting them to collaborate in their own rescue. Those who are more tender-hearted will find in you a balance they lack; when they've run out of energy because they fail to take good care of themselves, you will still have enough compassion left to lift others out of trouble.

Even the tough-hearted, those who believe people should solve their own problems, might come to admire your tenderness which they don't find in themselves. So the people you help will be grateful, and the people who see your balance between self and others will admire you. Certainly, balanced is not bad at all as a way to be known among your friends.

 

How firmly committed are you to the ideas and beliefs that govern your thinking and guide your behavior? Some people trust their current ideas and beliefs the way a climber trusts the mountain; whichever way they move, whether the climb is on a familiar trail or over new ground, there is something solid beneath them, something they count on.

For others, new ideas, new solutions to old problems, new beliefs that replace tired convictions are like welcome wind in their sails. They can hardly wait to tack in a new direction and ride a new idea through uncharted waters. If it's new, it's interesting, and they're ready to explore.

Just these thoughts popped up in mind so thought of sharing it with you all. Let me know if any of you agree to these or not.

With love and regards,

MANOJ KUMAR OJHA

DAY-29 : HASSI MESSAOUD, ALGERIA 27TH JUNE'09 23.51 HRS

INDIAN TOURISM

When we see around the middle east and particularly Dubai we have to learn some lesson from the Visionary full proof plan by the ruler of Dubai. How he took pain to convert a desert into a leisure and luxury land and a tourist attraction. India the vast country we all know even though not able to garner more tourists as per its size geographically. Actually we lack the political will to promote the tourism in India otherwise Plethora of tourist interest places are there in each and every state of India. I think each and every state has to take their own initiative to make their state tourist conducive, develop infrastructure, good transportation system, proper security and information channels.

India is very rich in its culture, India's history goes back at least five thousand years, making it one of the oldest cultures of the world. its chequered fortunes are reflected in the infinite variety of its monuments- forts, palaces, temples and mausoleum.

Its variations in topography and climate make the hundreds of interesting destinations: the scenic hill stations, the old deserts of ladakh, the green valleys of Himachal ,the rain forests of the the North East, the desert regions of Rajasthan, the extensive sun-drenched beaches, the wild sanctuaries......

The Indian tradition of hospitality together with the variety of destinations and a well developed tourist infrastructure make India an ideal venture for holidays, business meetings, Medical tourism and conventions.

It require a focused attention to develop this nation as a tourist friendly then that day is not far away when INDIA will be on the top of tourist map.

With lots of love and regards,

MANOJ KUMAR OJHA

DAY-28, HASSI MESSAOUD, ALGERIA, 26TH JUNE'09, 23.32 HRS

MICHAEL JACKSON AND CRICKET

It is in my gene, prior to start of the day I like to get a dose of Indian news on Indian channels.As on routine I was hearing a piece of news and suddenly Breaking News Flashing started showing that the KING OF POP is dead. First I can't believed it, rubbed my eyes twice and again with wide open eyes read again and again but it was cruel truth.I felt completely melancholy. Switched to another channels like Sky News and Fox News to get more info regarding "Michael Jackson's" demise.
My first introduction with MJ was long before when Thriller was making a wave, one of my friend brought his cassette and we played and I personally found his voice was unique, music was very good completely thrilling but have to confess was not able to understand his accent. I searched and arranged lyrics book for Thriller and then enjoyed his each and every work.
I became ardent fan of MJ and collected almost all of his Cd's and DVDs. I have not seen anyone dancing even closer to the similarity of MJ. He seems like a rubber who can move each and every part of his body.

Our Bollywood own Mithun Chakravarthy was on demand that days as he try to ape MJ's move.
MJ will always be a bright north star in Music world. I personally felt very saddened. Miss you MJ and I know no one is going to feel the void created by you.

As it was a Friday, I slept in afternoon and wake up at 1800 hrs, took a coffee and switched on TV to see ODI Cricket between India and West Indies where India won a thrilling victory by 20 runs. A superb century knock by Yuvraaj has brought India in a commandeer position. But when West Indies started batting a point has came when there was feeling if match should not turn in favor of west Indies but Men in Blue has done their clinical job and finished off nicely.

With love and regards,

MANOJ KUMAR OJHA

DAY-27, HASSI MESSAOUD, ALGERIA, 25TH JUNE'09, 23.21 HRS

LOVE AND PEACE

Heard news from all over world and particularly in Asia and middle east that one or another country's suicide bombers are blasting themselves and killing innocent people. Suicidal terrorism has increased manifold in the recent years. Why it is happening...under what despondency any individual agree to blew themselves...its real matter of analysis and study...is it happening due to lack of political will in different country...why brainwashing of any individual to do this heinous act of suicidal attack?
I believe it was Isaac Asimov who wrote, "Violence is the last resort of the incompetent."
World Peace is the most urgent issue facing humankind today. Terrorism is a more urgent problem now than are disease, crime, illiteracy, poverty, natural disasters, and the disintegration of the world's Eco-system. World Peace is even more important than the campaigns against political tyranny and the suppression of human rights and freedoms.
How can this be? Poverty, starvation, and disease mean painful, inhuman living conditions for millions of humans everywhere. Crime, murder, and political torture by humans against humans seems unnecessarily redundant when added to the suffering caused by floods, hurricanes, volcanoes, earthquakes, tsunamis, auto accidents, lightning strikes, and the occasional meteor falling on somebodies head.
This isn't a time for despondency. It is a time for optimism. This isn't a time to look backward with regret. We need to look forward with hope and purpose and commitment. Now isn't the time to let political setbacks drain our resolve. It is the time to remember that progress doesn't follow a straight line. Setbacks are a natural part of gaining ground.

Hope very soon world peace should prevail.

With love and regards,

MANOJ KUMAR OJHA

DAY-26, HASSI MESSAOUD, ALGERIA, 25TH JUNE'09, 05.30AM

AGONY OR SAY PAIN

“Call upon Me in the day of trouble; I will deliver you, and you shall glorify Me” (Psalm 50:15 NKJ).

When troubles come, if you’re like me, you try to figure out what the problem is, and how it got started. Those two things are usually simple to detect. It’s the why that’s more complex and harder to understand; at least it is for me.

Psychogenic pain presents as real physical pain caused by a psychological problem. This means the pain is caused by any individuals mental or emotional issues. And experience of this Psychogenic pain is not less than the physical pain as it triggers the same symptoms what one experience in physical pain. One has to understand why it happens....why one feel so down??? What is the direct relation between pain, agony and joy....

Its better to take some time to reflect on your own painful experiences, to admit to yourself that your emotional pain is real, to recognize that countless others face similar circumstances, and to allow yourself some modest optimism that you may be able to grow beyond the pain.

To live life without negative thoughts, depression, stress and escape behaviors is to live a life in true freedom. A life free of hurting others, free of shame, guilt, fear, free from hollow resolves and one failure after another is priceless. Few may find it !

As explained by a pain management guru~

"Pain, even agony, is no more than information before the senses, data fed to the computer of the mind. The lesson is simple: you have received the information, now act on it. Take control of the input and you shall become master of the output."

How to reach the state of contentment and peace if anyone of you know please send their opinion......

Have a nice time.....

MANOJ KUMAR OJHA

DAY-25, HASSI MESSAOUD, ALGERIA, 23RD JUNE'09, 21.16 HRS

DETERMINATION

We know the world is full of suffering, it is also full of overcoming of it.
If anyone determine with full dedication it is very much possible to achieve the goal.

Three key attributes to accomplishing personal goals; desire, dedication and determination or simply the three D's.

The three D's are at the forefront of any one's success; whether in a person's personal or professional life. Now if these people: the amputee, the overweight lady, the blind man, and the older man, were told that they had to be able to maintain an average waistline, run 1.5 miles, do some push-ups and sit-ups and had three years to train for it, do you think they'd be able to accomplish the challenge? Seems like a silly question doesn't it?

Just as many of us have the desire, dedication and determination to succeed in the personal, professional, spiritual and emotional facets of our lives; we must also use the three D's to succeed in the physical fitness facet of our lives. When physical fitness is made a priority in people's lives people can make good progress towards success.

You gotta do it. This is the whole concept behind Nike's ad, "Just Do It." Dedication is what separates the common from the champion.

"The will to win is the most over-estimated phenomenon in sport. It's not the will to win – everyone wants to win. It's the will to prepare to win that makes winners."

What about you? Are you willing to work hard to win? If your Coach were to ask you to do some extra drills after practice, what would your attitude be?

Someone put it this way: Success is 90 percent perspiration and 10 percent inspiration.

To be a champion in life requires developing a balance in every area of your life – the physical, the mental, and the spiritual.

Feeling very sleepy....have a very good night...

With lots of love,

MANOJ KUMAR OJHA

DAY-24, HASSI MESSAOUD, ALGERIA, 22ND JUNE '09, 23.21 HRS

FRIENDS AND THEIR IMPORTANCE IN OUR LIFE~

When we were very small, we realized that having friends was important to us. Some of us even had imaginary friends or our beloved pets became our intimate pals. Sometimes, even our teddies and other stuffed animals snuggled with us at night and listened to our dreams and secrets. The need for friends continued as we grew into our teens and began to find our own identities. Friends were a big part of forming our personalities and supporting who we had become. As adults, it is still important for us to have friends. Our spouses often are our most intimate friends. But friends, outside of family bonds, can be our greatest comfort and allies.

Interestingly, a recent study by Pennsylvania State University revealed something that men and women have probably known for a long time. Men and women react differently to stress in a social context. Men have a tendency to either go off by themselves or engage in a highly competitive sport with other men. Women seek each other out and commiserate, either engaging in a group project (charity work or the old fashioned sewing circle) or just a confab together (going for coffee or having a girls night out).

Regardless of gender, friendships help lower our blood pressure, our heart rates, and our cholesterol levels. The Nurses' Health Study at the Harvard Medical School concluded that, for women, not having friends was as bad for their health as obesity or smoking. In fact, friendships can help us live longer, and they can most definitely help us manage stress.

Friends offer acceptance and emotional support. They also help occasionally with the practical aspects of day-to-day living.

I am remembering my childhood days when during summer holidays my friends use to utter different animal sounds from outside my house signalling me that they are waiting outside of my house. I use to pack quickly my bathing towel and swimming trunk and slowly go out of the house without telling anyone in house.This I had to do as I was not permitted to go out during summer and that too in noon.We go to a near by "Talaav" ... Water Pond where we put a competition that who will go much farther and pluck a Lotus flower and come back fast. I learned my swimming from that Talaav using football bladder or using four wheeler's tube. It was an amazing experience doing that things and when we return home it was a sure to get a scold. I never tell lie to my parent whatever I did I use to narrate them so I use to get less scold but next time again I do the same act and it was my luck sometimes get caught and sometimes not.

Today in this hap hazard busy life when time is not enough even to take lunch properly.So, it is ridiculous to imagine how to meet with your long lost friends.The horse of my imagination was galloping and an Idea popped up in my mind if and iffen technology should become advance of that stage where when we should be able to Video chat one should shake hands by purchasing credit for 1 min for USD 10 or so....it will be of great advantage when friends at both ends can feel the human touch....any scientist or inventors...any take...pl let me know how you guys like my idea???

With lots of love & regards,

MANOJ KUMAR OJHA

DAY-23, HASSI MESSAOUD, ALGERIA, 21ST JUNE'09, 23.21 HRS

FATHER, DAD, PAPA...YOU CALL BY ANY NAME....!!!

Father! - to God himself we cannot give a holier name. ~William Wordsworth
My role model was my dad who was a very disciplined and a self made man. I miss him terribly as he was my mentor, my guide, my friend, my counsellor and my well wisher who show me the correct path which I followed religiously.......the VOID created due to his untimely demise is unbearable. He was pillar of strength for our family.
“Until you have a child of your own . . . you will never know the joy, the love beyond feeling that resonates in the heart of a father as he looks upon his child. You will never know the sense of honor that makes a man want to be more than he is and to pass something good and hopeful into the hands of his child. And you will never know the heartbreak of the fathers who are haunted by the personal demons that keep them from being the men they want their child to be.”
I got fatherhood after 10 long years of our marriage so, who will better know about the child and a dad's relationship. Again I become daddy of my little angel Son. My joy had no bound in becoming proud dad of 2 toddlers. I have developed a very good relationship with my children.
It is due to career perspective I have to live alone temporarily. I am missing by each passing day the mischievous acts of my children....the contagious smile...the tight hugs..kisses......their very sharp observations of each and everything...their lot of queries...feeling helpless for not being with them but always connected with them...hearing sweet voice of my little angels makes my day.
The bond, the affection, security and comfort my little angels get when I take both of them in my arms.
Here are my two little angels who are 5500 miles away from me. Lets see permanently when I'll be there with them~
Aastha in a jubilant mood on a slide.




The wanderer Aaryan at his full might.... :)

Time to bid a very good night....

Love you all....

MANOJ KUMAR OJHA

DAY-22, HASSI MESSAOUD, ALGERIA, 20TH JUNE'09, 23.38 HRS

COLLEAGUE , FRIEND OR FOE…I DON'T KNOW…..??

"Oil and perfume rejoice the heart; so does the sweetness of a friend's counsel that comes from the heart." 

I landed on 22^nd Feb'97 in UAE when I joined an Oman based co for carrying out its project in Dubai. After completion of this project got transferred to Oman for carrying out company's other project and In the course of my career, I made a friend who was my colleague, he was more than a brother to me, but as the time passing by I don't know what confusion took place between us or he get influenced by other co-worker and hence sabotage of our friendly relationship. Actually he was surrounded by lot of sub-ordinates and he may get influenced against me. I tried my best not to let the situation slide.

At lot of instances I gave time to cool down. Not responded in the heat of the moment. Instead, waited until  situation become calm to start a discussion.

I Looked at the situation from every angle. What was my colleague's intentions? Did I played any role in the problem? Tried to analyse myself. Before confronting with him, tried to identify his motives, as well as any steps I could have taken to avoid the situation.

When a friend's counsel cuts through the confusion and unwinds the threads of heartache, anger, frustration and unrest, peace and order takes over.  Understanding prevails.  And even though the situation doesn't change, I change for the situation.  My mind is able to set itself upon a solution and my heart is able to rest in God's grace to get me through it.  Sometimes I just need affirmation; I just need to know that what I see in God's Word is what He intends for me to see.  I need validation; I need to know my actions are not simply self-serving, that my thoughts are pure. I want to deal with people with the same grace I've received from Him.  I want to stand strong in His righteousness without being pious or condemning.  I want to rest in His peace without warring in my soul.  I want to know what to avoid so I do not fall into temptation.

Any of you have gone through this kind of phase, if yes, then please share over here.

 

With love and regards,

 

MANOJ KUMAR OJHA

DAY-21, HASSI MESSAOUD, 19TH JUNE'09, 21.18 HRS

DAD N ME

At times remembrance flow out like a lava from the dead volcano. A child who always be the apple of his parents eye remember his childhood where how he was, cradled in the arm of parent...“The toddler craves independence but…fears desertion.”

I remember that old days when anything required, either it is any object or emotional support always my dad was there like a God. It was the time when normally child try to do something on his own and get scolded by their parent but it was adverse in my case as when I try to do something I get an encouragement from my dad and if anything wrong then he explained me very lucidly about its pros and cons.

He didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.He always use to tell me that ‘You’re the most wonderful boy in the world, and you can do anything you want to.’ Growing up in my dad's shadow has given me self confidence, built me to take my own decision. He was better than thousands of school teachers.

The neat habits which he inculcate in me still I cherish that. He was my role model. Never I have seen him smoking or boozing or had any affair, he was a pure vegetarian a very good dad and a very good husband for my "Maa". I do understand for becoming good dad one has to be good husband too and that instill the good values in the children. Child learn what they observe in their house.

I admit my dad has always supported me financially as well as emotionally. I too never ever taken any undue advantage of his liberty and used my senses before doing anything. I was trying to become independent and finally after completion of engineering when I joined a company in Mumbai he was overjoyed and his joy has no bound when I informed that I got an overseas assignment.

He went to heavenly abode on 09th June'1995 and left all of us completely deserted from his love, smile, his aroma of presence.

I remember each and every moment spent with him from the time I got my senses.

“My father gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person, he believed in me.”And now I am father of 2 little angels one my 4 yr old daughter and other 23 months old my son. I am trying my best to instill the same values in my kids what I received from my dad.

I love you dad. You are the best dad of the world...keep showering your blessings on all of us from your heavenly abode.

MANOJ KUMAR OJHA

DAY-20, HASSI MESSAOUD, 18TH JUNE'09, 2058 HRS

Contrary to popular belief, we don't know much. As individuals, as a species, our information isn't great and there is so much out there that isn't clearly understood. And all those who state otherwise, or who never admit to having their own shortcomings, shouldn't be taken seriously. My information isn't perfect, yours isn't perfect, your neighbours and friends isn't perfect.
 
But that's the beauty of it all - all that's out there to discover, to invest ourselves in new knowledge and discovery, and creating new and better ways of doing things. As we progress, we easily understand that yesterday's thinking was perhaps foolish, or short-sighted, or simply flat out wrong. Our fast-paced society has no time for yesterday, and the best practices spread around the world like wildfire. We learn, we grow, and we move on.
"Like water, this rising tide of data can be viewed as an abundant, vital and necessary resource. With enough preparation, we should be able to tap into that reservoir -- and ride the wave -- by utilizing new ways to channel raw data into meaningful information. That information, in turn, can then become the knowledge that leads to wisdom." ~ Les Alberthal
The idea is that information, knowledge, and wisdom are more than simply collections. Rather, the whole represents more than the sum of its parts and has a synergy of its own.
Information, knowledge is like a tidal wave which is available everywhere only required to tap into the reservoir.

Feeling very tired due to heavy workout and signing out...very good night... :)

MANOJ KUMAR OJHA

DAY-19, HASSI MESSAOUD, 17TH JUNE'09, 2345 HRS

Safety index of any projects govern that how it follows the HSE norms and in what better way its interspersed in the employees.

It has been found that in all the projects HSE requirements are forced by the HSE advisers and employees doesn't try to understand the consequences if any thing goes wrong if they don't follow the correct safety practices.My understanding is that if all the line managers and supervisors follow the golden safety rules then it is possible to avoid any untoward incidents.

And wherever it is followed and people makes the safety paramount that projects succeeds. Normally in the gulf HSE practices followed strictly in Oil and Gas industries but sorry to state

that still it has to come up to the international standard in India exception some large Petrochemical and Oil and Gas industries.

Here is a picture "Ghajini in Making"~ :D hahahhaaaaaaaaaaaaa

Enjoy........

Have a good night......... :)

MANOJ KUMAR OJHA

DAY-18, HASSI MESSAOUD, 16TH JUNE'09, 2140 HRS

Same routine...following the production, meetings, planning for resources, reports and finally day off..badminton and gym to force myself to the extreme to get tiringly tired..the pain which gives happiness.

Finally India could not saved even the little chances of glory and lost the match with SA. What I believe cricket has become now absolute commercial shop and not remained only a game...all the players subjected to sever hectic schedule playing different country matches and hectic IPL, they didn't even get proper rest and went to play T-20 matches.

Today booked complete tour of Himachal Pradesh which we are going cover in 10 days sometimes in July'09.

Daily use to talk to the little angels and it gives me immense pleasure and a heavenly feeling, also feel melancholy of not able to be with them.

Is it the life demands??? Not able to decide the journey of life taking me into which way??

Good night.....

MANOJ KUMAR OJHA

DAY-17, HASSI MESSAOUD, 15TH JUNE'09, 2106 HRS

Life is full of happiness, sorrow, material, lonliness, love, desire, void.

I remember Wordsworth's famous poem "The Daffodils," taking on the subject of being alone:

"I wandered lonely as a cloud"……………..taking this I thought of searching words to describe the lonliness~

when on my bed I lie

In void or in pensive mood,

They flash upon that inward eye

Which is the bliss of solitude...

Above us everywhere are stars, Beneath us only constellations.

Five billion miles away when a galaxy dies

it pretends like a snowflake falling on water.

“Pray that your loneliness may spur you into finding something to live for, great enough to die for.”

Sleep is becoming heavier than anything it willing to transport me to the world of dream…a 4^th world full of illusion…let me live there for a while….good night.

MANOJ KUMAR OJHA

DAY-16, HASSI MESSAOUD, 14TH JUNE'09, 2345 HRS

Hi....

Day started coolly, fabrication shop, office, reports, spools, meeting, heat in between lunch and finally close of the day. Evening started with India Vs England T-20 super 8 match but aghast India loses by just 3 runs. Makes the mood completely melancholy. But remembered that yes Cricket is the game of uncertainties. One has to delve deeper to know where Team India went wrong who was the world champ in T-20 matches
Success is bounding from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.”
Following ghazal line I remember always~
"Peshaniye hayat pe aise ho bal pade, hasne ko dil ne chaha magar aansoo nikal pade:.
Love you all...fingers are saying that we too got retired hurt so please give me break...so I have to give break to my fingers....

With love and best wishes,

MANOJ KUMAR OJHA

DAY-15, HASSI MESSAOUD, 13TH JUNE' 09, 2358 HRS

Wake up with the shrilling sound of the alarm as today was the first day of the week so it was sure that day is going to be a little hectic.
Donned in coverall and the safety gear went to the office. Outside mercury was rising up to 44 deg plus with the scorching sun. Here heat is entirely different from what one experience in India. There is very less humidity and the climate is almost dry. It is told that Sahara desert having the highest temperature on this planet earth during summer. Life at Sahara desert is very tough with harsh climate and barren soil.
Had to take few snaps of our base so hooked to the safety harness and went up to the 23 metres using man basket of a crane. View was completely white due to sharp sun rays but managed to take few aerial pictures.
When I was hanging on the man basket of the crane I was remembering travelling from Hassi Mesaoud to Hassi Remel by company’s chartered flight and you can’t believe that the view was very pathetic at some places and eye pleasing at some place.
Its parched, forbidding landscape took shape thousands of years, but even today, the Sahara is constantly changing. It is a matter of study that how the local caravaneers survive this harsh dry climate?
Even though living in this desert I thanks to the God that we got all the amenities to survive and lead a better life till whatever time we are here.
Liked this quote on Sahara desert~
“If you put the federal government in charge of the Sahara desert, in 5 years there’d be shortage of sand”.

Now time to sleep…wishing you all a good night…

MANOJ KUMAR OJHA

DAY-14, HASSI MESSAOUD, 12TH JUNE'09, 2105 HRS

It was a weekend even though we work half day as it is normal in oil and gas industry to work in weekend as it directly related to production, schedule of the project.
As yesterday I told that today I am going to discuss related to unfaithfulness in a relationship. So, here it goes~

INFIDELITY~

“It is necessary to the happiness of man that he be mentally faithful to himself. Infidelity does not consist in believing or in disbelieving; it consists in professing to believe what he does not believe.”

~Thomas Paine

A spouse's unfaithfulness is the most painful experience that can be inflicted in marriage.

Some feelings that are prominent when a couple experiences cheating in their marriage include:

Shame, Guilt, Blame, Anger, Hurt, Disappointment, Rage, Embarrassment, Forgiveness, Jealousy, Lust, Resentment, Denial, Mis-trust.

Nothing shakes a marriage to its core like an extra marital affair. Nothing. Not money problems, not interfering in-laws, not poor communication, not kid burnout and not colliding careers. None of these come even close. An outside affair blows through a marriage like a tornado. It turns everything upside down and inside out. Most of all it leaves trust, sacred to any marriage, in shreds. Rekindling that trust is essential but it’s difficult, tricky business.

Why are extra marital affairs so common and are they really insurmountable? Are so many marriages that bad that its inevitable that one or both partners stray? Probably not. Really bad marriages are the minority. But so are the really good ones. That leaves an awful lot of marriages in the middle, just idling along on automatic pilot. It’s these relationships that are most vulnerable.

Hurt feelings covered over by anger are another reason affairs happen. The spouse who cheats is very often acting out an anger from within their marriage. This doesn’t mean they are justified in doing so. It means their ability to deal with feelings in a less hurtful way is flawed. It is never a good idea to cope with or try to solve a problem in your marriage by getting involved with someone else outside it.

You need immediate action, a commitment between you and your spouse to change your relationship around immediately. Focus intently on what your marital commitment must mean. Make a firm decision to start today with a new vision, one full of hope and renewed confidence that with diligent effort and focus will offer you a wonderful marriage.

Start your relationship from scratch, and try to set your sights on learning new skills and attitudes. Replace the sadness of your marriage with a firm determination to make it work with love.

If you want to suggest something then please post your comment.

With lots of love.....Good night...:)

MANOJ KUMAR OJHA

DAY-13, HASSI MESSAOUD, 11TH JUNE'09 23.40HRS

Got up in the morning with the whirling sound of generator which was running far away and near the fabrication shops.Thereafter as usual routine. Base manager returned from his leave.

Yesterday I was discussing about the purpose of life.Is it the mantra of success lies with professionalism domain or in all sphere of life.Child goes under peer pressure to perform well.And if at any point of time they fail in their exams then they may take some drastic action ..even to end life.So, my question is life is only worth for these exams...why parent doesn't counsel their ward that failing is not the end of life instead its an stepping stone to the success. Theory apart, every parent must encourage their ward to do something which interests them...viz they may excel in music, sports etc. For becoming successful in our professional life even we stretch our limit beyond our control and which makes the blunder. So, one has to workout in such a way that even carrying out their hectic work mind should be stress free.

The main mul mantra of a successful life live within of each self and only every individual has to uncover it.
As the time is running out I am gonna discuss a bold subject tomorrow which is called Infidelity as I read and seen lot of regarding it but no personal experience.
Time to go to bed....good night...:)

With warm love and regards,

MANOJ KUMAR OJHA

DAY-12, HASSI MESSAOUD, 10TH JUNE'09, 2330HRS

Same routine work another day and another time frame with another zeal passed by.

Following quote is my fav~

"When I examine myself and my methods of thought, I come to the conclusion that the gift of fantasy has meant more to me than my talent for absorbing positive knowledge."

-Albert Einstein

One can come across lot of people those are busy for nothing but they will pretend that they having lot of problems and they are very busy.
Within our personal life, from time to time, various disturbances (sometimes small - once in a while really big) appear. Again, we fight them. We label them as bad. But  they are ultimately good. Very good. Because they cause our evolution. They make us bigger. Stronger. And they introduce us to dormant powers we didn't know we had. Like the forest, the curve balls of life clear out the old to make way for the new. And better.

Nature's a great teacher. And just as it runs under a series of immutable laws, so does profession. Along with life.

So, believing into the facts from the sacred Gita - Whatever happened in the past was for good, what is happening now is for our good and what will happen in the future will be good for us.
Heard so many Orators on life philosophy. But what best thing I found that everyone including me says proudly that yes I have read this and that books but none of us can confirm that we are following the teachings which were conveyed to us though their books.
What you say??? How to cope up with day to day life?Do you need some sort of developed program to guide your inner being to act into meditative direction.
Just give a thought that what is the purpose of life?? Where we all are heading for.....we will discuss all these later on...now time to bed...a very good night... :)

MANOJ KUMAR OJHA

DAY-10/11 HASSI MESSAOUD, 9TH JUNE'09 22.52HRS

8th and 9th June'09 was very hectic since had been to Algiers on 8th morning visited there one paint manufacturer and our paint sub-contractor to get the feel and expedite the paint delivery as our painting work is getting delayed at Hassi Messaoud base and in all these the whole day has gone. Returned to the hotel-took shower and came down to take a stroll on the street as nothing much was there so came back to the hotel took dinner and went to sleep since its already midnight.

Today-9th June'09 in morning had been to US embassy for my non immigrant visa and finally I got it after that went to Blida 50kms away from Algiers to inspect Diesel tanks which are getting manufactured at our vendors facility.Came back directly from Vendors facility to office in Algiers and immediately to hotel at 03.30pm took my brief lunch, checked out of hotel and rushed to airport for coming back to Hassi Messaoud. So, finally I am back and now writing this post at my ease.
I remember following quote by~MARK THORNTON

"Our hectic schedules are crammed with crises, to-do lists, issues marked urgent and overflowing in trays... Far away from everyday events, at your core, lies a place of quiet, calm, serenity, and stillness... Feeling connected to life and your core can be an everyday and effortless activity."

How, why, when and where we have to carry out meditation. Lot of pundits has suggested their theories but what I feel that doing a " SAVAASAN " for 10 to 15 minutes before going to sleep on the bed will definitely help in a great way and relaxes your mind as well as soul. It provides a good deep sleep within minutes provided its done in A proper way. I know its really very difficult to take out time during the days, may be day time suits to somebody but normally what I have observed most of the people feel good to carry out this "Aasan" just before going to sleep.

Also, reading book like "THE MONK WHO SOLD HIS FERRARI" by Robin S. Sharma gives a lot of inner thought to improve our mental condition.

Well I am not here to give any lecture but I have shared my personal feeling.

Let me know guys how and what you feel regarding Meditation.

Time to take a deep sleep after Savaasan.....:)

A very good night.........:)


MANOJ KUMAR OJHA

DAY-009 HASSI MESSAOUD, ALGERIA, 7TH JUNE'09 2352HRS

Today's day went as usual..reviewed our planned and actual production and found that we are ahead of the planned production so, that was one solace. Its my third consecutive year when I was not along with my wife for celebrating Anniversary.Only wishes exchanged on phone but today made a resolution that from now onwards we will not miss any anniversary.

Fine... tomorrow morning have to go to Algiers for some official work and my flight is there at 6 in the morning and will be back at base on 9th June'09 evening.

I was going through the development analysis of state Bihar and found that Chief Minister Nitish Kumar has done a marvellous job and brought Bihar on the path of development and thanks to the technology and his initiative that he is accessible on the click of a mouse.

Bigb I am really a big fan and admirer of you but sorry to say that I didn't kept patience and lifted these few pictures from your blogsite as these pictures were originally clicked by you while shooting for "PAA" yesterday at your shooting studio~Let me too share this with the netizens~

Now time to go to bed as tomorrow will be a hectic day.

Good night.........:)

MANOJ KUMAR OJHA