As yesterday I told that today I am going to discuss related to unfaithfulness in a relationship. So, here it goes~
INFIDELITY~
“It is necessary to the happiness of man that he be mentally faithful to himself. Infidelity does not consist in believing or in disbelieving; it consists in professing to believe what he does not believe.”
~Thomas Paine
A spouse's unfaithfulness is the most painful experience that can be inflicted in marriage.
Some feelings that are prominent when a couple experiences cheating in their marriage include:
Shame, Guilt, Blame, Anger, Hurt, Disappointment, Rage, Embarrassment, Forgiveness, Jealousy, Lust, Resentment, Denial, Mis-trust.
Nothing shakes a marriage to its core like an extra marital affair. Nothing. Not money problems, not interfering in-laws, not poor communication, not kid burnout and not colliding careers. None of these come even close. An outside affair blows through a marriage like a tornado. It turns everything upside down and inside out. Most of all it leaves trust, sacred to any marriage, in shreds. Rekindling that trust is essential but it’s difficult, tricky business.
Why are extra marital affairs so common and are they really insurmountable? Are so many marriages that bad that its inevitable that one or both partners stray? Probably not. Really bad marriages are the minority. But so are the really good ones. That leaves an awful lot of marriages in the middle, just idling along on automatic pilot. It’s these relationships that are most vulnerable.
Hurt feelings covered over by anger are another reason affairs happen. The spouse who cheats is very often acting out an anger from within their marriage. This doesn’t mean they are justified in doing so. It means their ability to deal with feelings in a less hurtful way is flawed. It is never a good idea to cope with or try to solve a problem in your marriage by getting involved with someone else outside it.
You need immediate action, a commitment between you and your spouse to change your relationship around immediately. Focus intently on what your marital commitment must mean. Make a firm decision to start today with a new vision, one full of hope and renewed confidence that with diligent effort and focus will offer you a wonderful marriage.
Start your relationship from scratch, and try to set your sights on learning new skills and attitudes. Replace the sadness of your marriage with a firm determination to make it work with love.
If you want to suggest something then please post your comment.
With lots of love.....Good night...:)
MANOJ KUMAR OJHA
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